should I stay married for the kids?
The research is more nuanced than either camp admits: kids do best with low-conflict parents, married or not. A high-conflict intact marriage is worse for kids than a respectful divorce. A low-conflict, low-warmth marriage is a harder call. There's no clean answer — but "for the kids" is rarely the only reason once people sit with it.
people also ask
- Do kids actually do better with married parents?
- Only when the marriage is low-conflict. High-conflict households outperform divorce on almost no metric for kids.
- At what age does divorce hurt kids the least?
- There's no safe age. The biggest predictor of how kids handle divorce is how the parents handle each other after.
- Will my kids resent me if I leave?
- Some do, for a while. Most resent staying-and-being-miserable more once they're old enough to see it.
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