is it normal to not want sex with my husband?
Extremely. Desire in long-term relationships is responsive, not spontaneous — meaning it shows up after connection, not before. If you feel like a manager, a mom, and a calendar to your husband all day, your body won't switch into wanting him at 10pm. The fix is rarely about the sex; it's about what happens at 8pm.
people also ask
- Why do I lose attraction to my husband after kids?
- Identity collapse, sleep debt, and being touched all day without being seen. Common, and reversible.
- Is a sexless marriage doomed?
- Not if both people are okay with it. Sexless marriages fail when one person isn't and won't say so.
- How do I tell my husband I don't want sex without breaking him?
- Frame it as "not now / not this way" rather than "not you." The story he tells himself is the part that wounds.
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