why do I feel guilty after going no-contact?
Because guilt and doing-the-right-thing aren't opposites. No-contact protects you from someone whose presence costs more than it pays — but your nervous system was trained to keep them comfortable, so it'll keep ringing the bell. The guilt fades. It usually doesn't fade in week one. Most people here say it takes ~3 months.
people also ask
- Does the guilt ever fully go away?
- It dulls. Most people stop feeling it daily by month 3, and only notice it on birthdays and holidays after that.
- Am I a bad person for going no-contact with a parent?
- No. Estrangement is usually the last option, not the first.
- Should I break no-contact if they're sick?
- Only on your terms, with a plan for after. Crisis doesn't undo the reason you went no-contact.
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